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The menstrual cramps got very bad in my late 30s. My doctor put me on birth control pills and they got much better. Unfortunately, in my late 40s I decided to get really healthy by getting off the birth control and not messing with my hormones anymore. …


And I’m a Mexican American who was raised Catholic and everything

People sometimes mention to me that they have children. I don’t respond and wait for them to get back to the topic of our Zoom. Sometimes, in person, a friend mentions that they have pictures of their kids in their Halloween costumes or on the vacation they just took. Maybe…


Silver Singles and Our Time were a waste of my money

OurTime.com is a dating app for people over the age of 50 and earlier this year I signed up. I dutifully provided a complete profile, swiped right on a lot of photos, and sent messages to men I hoped to hear from. I vowed to answer all messages I received…


Many unvaccinated people have medical or accessibility problems. Please stop calling us names.

I’m a far-leftist Democrat who can’t get vaccinated without risking serious health problems. This leaves me at peace with my decision, but in the painful company of I-won’t-wear-a-mask Republicans and all the right-leaning critics of pandemic restrictions. …


The belief “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life” has created a spectrum of hypocrisy.

What’s curious about “Do what you love and you’ll never work a day in your life” is that it makes it sound like working is bad, which is the most un-American sentiment there is. …


I’m 55 years old and looking for a date.

I used to envy divorced people.

I had a protracted spinsterhood that lasted into my 40s and towards the end of my 30s I discovered that between the 1960s and 2005 being divorced had gone from being a liability to being preferred. …


How responsible are you for obeying when you’ll have to live with consequences?

When a dying wish conflicts with the needs of the living, which should take priority? Some cases are easier than others. A friend told me of a terminally ill woman who felt so worried about leaving her dog behind that she made her daughter promise to have the dog euthanized…


My birthday highlighted how little I’ve accomplished in the past 16 months. You?

Yesterday was my birthday. For weeks I’d had a feeling of despondency and sadness. It perplexed me because what did I have to feel sad about? Or maybe a more correct way to put it was: what did I have to feel sad about that had just happened in the…


Forget “leg day.” Every day is “whatever feels good day.”

In my 30s and 40s I was a gym rat. I would get up as early as 5:00 a.m. to exercise hard, driven by the fear of becoming fat. With free weights and restricted eating, I desperately worked to stay slim and conventionally attractive (even years after becoming a wife).


It often isn’t the first thing that comes to mind.

Let’s say your name is Chris and you have a friend named Rita. Let’s say you see her right outside of your usual coffee shop, while she’s carrying her latte out and you’re on your way in for your morning pick-me-up.

You say, “Hey, Rita, what’s up?”

She steps out…

Regina Rodríguez-Martin

Mexican American. Chicagoan. Generation X. Relishes questions of human behavior. Nobody’s mother and nobody’s wife. Blog: https://www.reginachicana.com.

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